Living with a person that smokes and it stinks! Help!?

I would suggest speaking to her again - or make sure a window is open when she is smoking. I am a smoker too - and of corse i sometimes smoke inside - alot of the time I can never smell it but my non smoker friends and family can and i dont want them to have to put up with the stale stench so I burn Vanilla insense atleast 2-4 min sticks a day plus when ever we are home I open all the windows and air out my house - i never get any complaints.